How i work

How I do therapy

All of us, at some point in our lives, face challenges that get in the way of living our lives authentically, joyfully, and meaningfully.  Sometimes these obstacles are obvious to us such as major life transitions, losses, difficult relationships, or negative thought patterns. And sometimes we need help to identify what those obstacles are so we can begin to address them. Some people come to therapy because they feel depressed, directionless, negative, powerless, anxious, scared, or lonely. Others come to therapy simply to improve their relationships, communication skills, or to make connections with others.

Therapy is a unique relationship where you develop insight into your thoughts and feelings in the context of a caring, confidential relationship with the therapist. It is important that my clients feel comfortable with me and my style and have a sense that we can work together to gain insight and develop tools to create the life you want.

Dr. Brene´ Brown

Dr. Brown writes, “What if stories are just data with a soul?”. In her work she tells stories about her research, and explains how the data can help us to lead better lives. It is about the stories we have been told by our families, our society, and the stories we tell ourselves. These stories are at their most basic what lead to our crucial sense of being worthy of love and connection.  Her work is about helping us own our own stories and to “show up, be seen, and live brave” in our lives.

Dr. John Gottman

Melissa Percy's profile on the Gottman Referral Network

Dr. Gottman’s research and methods are built on the story that a couple tells about their relationship.  His prediction about whether a relationship would succeed is based on “perceived marital bond” – the positive or negative qualities of the relationship expressed in the telling of their story.  The more positive their perceptions and attitudes were about their marriage and each other, the more stable the marriage.